Just in time for thanksgiving, here is something I’ve being wanting to write for a while now. I suppose a lot of poeple would like to ask, Cindy why are you so happy all the time? So today, I’d like to share some of my own personal secrets to happiness…
1. Being happy with what you CURRENTLY have.
I think a lot of people (myself in the past included) get so caught up in achieving the next “goal” that you feel like you can ONLY be happy when its acheived. And then you get disappointed when you realized it was never the thing that you were CHASING that was supposed to bring you happiness.
Most days I wake up feeling happy that I have a job where I can use my skillset. When I get a task, I feel like its a challenge that I get to work on.
2. Being happy with who you CURRENTLY are.
I think another common source of UNHAPPINESS is not loving the current version of yourself. Sure, you can set goals for yourself to achieve, such as exercise more, dress better, earn more money, get prettier, etc. Btu the key to happiness is to love yourself as you ARE. A rheotrical question posits the following: how are you suppose to be happy if you DISLIKE yourself?
So the challenge here is how can you have an accurate evaluation of yourself while being happy with who you are, despite all these “comparisons” that are made daily in a globalized society.
3. Be as you are.
I think authenticity is another key ingredient of happiness. This means to truly be youself, and not “masking” to fit in, or give the answer that you think people want to hear.
Sure, this means you WILL lose friends. Some people WILL naturally dislike you (when you show up as who you are). But this also means that you will find the right people will APPRECIATE you as who you are. And for the rest? You probably didn’t want them around in the first place.
4. Remember that NOTHING is a big deal.
Made a mistake? It’s okay. Late to something? It’s okay. Hurt someone by accident? It’s okay, as long as you make the right amendments and learn from the experience.
A wise doctor once told me that besides life and death being irreversible, the other trival things we encounter daily in life pales in comparison.
5. Stop listening to other people and do what you want to do
Life is too short to be living for other people. If they want you to do something, or act a certain way, or achieve a certain thing, just tell them to do it themselves. Ultimately it will be you who is living out the consequences of your choices and actions, not them. They have their choice, and you have yours.